This says so much better what I have tried to express:

The Purity Culture movement might just be the single most anti-gospel doctrine in the American Church today. Yes, I said it. I don’t think any other doctrine in the Church has been responsible for more hurt, more shame, more pain or more dysfunction. I don’t think any other doctrine has damaged relationships and the souls […]

http://revolfaith.com/2015/12/11/purity-cant-be-taken-cant-be-given-away/